Hey there !
As promised, here’s the “Off Topic Sunday” post as I skipped the internationnal blogger meme this week since I already did that prompt earlier as I messed up a bit x)
I’ve saw a few do this kind of post of what life has learned us, that well.. I kinda wish someone would had told me ! I may only be 23years old but damn I saw quite alot, so let me share those with you. Hopefully some younger readers can benefit from what i’ve learned !
PS; they’re not listed in any order, just as they came through my head while writting them
1- Don’t let assoles make you bitter.
We all know it, some people just don’t care and WILL fuck you over without a back thought. However .. I just refuse them to convince me every human being is bad on this planet. I refuse them to teach me to stop caring and fuck people over, just because they do it freely to me.
My momma haven’t raised me like that. Will it hurt ? yes. But nice & genuine people like us still. exist. and I don’t wanna hurt thoses by mistake… we never know, eh ?
2- Never be scared to love an animal.
Sure, they will eventually pass before we do, but the love they gives us ? Priceless. Definately worth so much more than the pain we will feel after they leave .. Opposite to fellow humans, they will only hurt us that one time – and they do helps alot in understanding and supporting, specially if you have an health issues of some kind, mentally or physically.
My two helped me to never act on my suicidal thoughts; while mom’s went into dialysis with the support of her dog aswell.
3- It’s okay not knowing what you wanna do in life.
Higher education? Sure, it’s important. However, it might not be for everyone; and if you were 17 like I was when I graduated high schoold, you just cannot know what you wanna do with the rest of your life. We can change our minds. The real life differ so much from “in theory”, you can love learning it, but arrive there and go « eeeeerh … I don’t like this like I thought I would.. » … then, you just need to let that sit & start over !
Either go back to college/university, or branch yourself in a sex shop like me ! 😂 (im kidding .. for the last part anyway). Never be ashamed to have more than one certification or diploma ! It can still be of use later, we never know.
4- Don’t wait until you get to your limit.
Specially for something like your workplace, if you think you will just wait more and « it ain’t so bad » or « i’ll get used to it » over and over .. no, girl. run. You don’t need to run for the hills without having a backup plan already, like me, but definately work on that backup plan right away before you reach it ! Don’t wait until you end up crying and just cannot do this anymore- that’s when it’s too late. I beg you, learn this from someone who went through it !
Also works for anything else really, specially relationships also. If you aren’t happy in it – get out before it’s too late, and plan for it so it’s ready if you do get to your limit. you won’t go through what my head ache was.
5- Money isn’t everything !!
Better to love your minimum wage job than hate your high paying one.. you would be very surprised how close bonded it is with your overall hapiness and self-love, it impact everything else. No one wanna be unhappy and self-loathing all it’s life, it’s so much more than that.
Can you manage everything while still doing what you love, or if you can, get rid of some un-necessities ?
I agree some time it’s not as simple .. but if you can, then go for it !
6- Take care of yourself first. resting is totally okay !
Aside from pets and your kids if you have some, you do not need to take care of anyone else than yourself. Need a break or a nap ? allow yourself to get one ! If you have a friend in need or something and you focus on your health first, they may get unhappy at you .. but remember; you cannot help someone get out of the water if you’re already drowning ! Get yourself out first (and apologize if needed..) and go see if they still need help and ask if they are okay after you are out of trouble yourself.
7- Don’t rush a relationship – either friend or lover
You might think this one should be obvious .. but it wasn’t for me. Back when I was younger, being in a romantic relationship used to be a goal for me, aswell as having kids (hah .. iknow..). It was THE thing I was aching for and claimed I couldn’t live without. Well.. let me tell you one thing.. it isn’t now. It took me forever to be in peace with that and see that I am perfectly fine on my own with nothing greater than the love from my two dachshunds, and get to the realisation that welp … I might not have the patience to have kids after all – just like my godmother ! Also know that you should NOT, in any circounstances, change a piece of who you are for someone else to like you better or any crap like that. If they love you, they should 100% get along with who you really are !
8- Trust your gut feelings
Unlike when anxiety screams at you (you want to ignore that one..), we all have this little voice who get to speak when things feel .. not quite right. Not necessary of something huge & drastic is gonna happen, but you know, unpleasant … so you better pay close attention to it !
exemple: one time I had my “friend” come over the 3hour drive that was between us. All was fine, but as he took longer than expected I kinda, didn’t wanted to go anymore … but I told myself it wouldn’t be right of me, considering the drive and all, that it was probly anxiety again (which happened alot before) and… turned out that supper was really blah. found out the moment I got there that I should had listened to that “NOPE!” earlier .. 😪
What is something you had to go through that you would had loved someone to warn you about ?
Wow this is really inspirational. I agree with all your points especially the one about money. Money isnt everything, people keep asking me if I make money from my blog once they hear I’m a blogger, I tell them I’m not blogging for money but for the joy of it and then they make me feel like I’m wasting my time or I’m doing something wrong. Sometimes you just need to do the things you enjoy for your own benefit to relieve stress and cause you have a passion for it and not for the money.
totally agree ! and in some times, turning something you love into what you do to pay the bills actually makes you not liking it as much anymore.. which is kinda sad,
Great post, Kristina 🙂 some really good insights you’ve shared. I wish it was easy to stick to these things though! Like trusting your inner voice, or not listening to mean people… But I guess life is a journey, and sometimes it takes a while to learn these things 🙂
yes.. iknow, even if you do know it, in some cases you don’t and/or can’t see it as clearly…
I’ve gone through so many of these things that I wish I knew before going through them. I was just raised that you went to college to get a high paying job. Then when I was finishing college, I realized that a high paying job would not make me happy. I’m still trying to figure everything out, but I’m much happier with what I’m doing right now.
yeps, same ! everything looks so nice in theory … however it’s not always the same in reality
Exactly. Reality is so different!
Nice list of things that everyone should learn. But yeah, life is a real bitch. When you think that she can’t go worse than that, she will show her real face. But yeah, we should keep forward. Taking care of yourself is too important which I hadn’t realized myself until a few years before.
And yes money is definitely not everything, at least this was what I used to think earlier. But since the time I am doing a job, it has shown me the real importance of it. Money is actually important for some happiness in your life, if not for all 🙂 But yeah, you should be on the ground and it is up to you how you change around the money.
yeep … no, for sure. you need to be able to afford the necessities, of course, but once that’s covered .. just follow what your heart wanna do. Specially that we spend an awful lot of time at work, you don’t wanna hate every moment of it !
#7… yea, i can relate. I had the serious case of “insta love” back in the day. I thought i couldn’t exist without a boyfriend. And somehow everyone around me seemed to have supported this theory. Weird.
oh yeah, they’ll do that .. mom would have her “see how mans are ?? youre so much better on your own.” and even then, i’d be like weeelll… you got married and have a child. like, I havent even experience it yet !!
so even if she were warning me.. I wouldn’t listen x)
then I saw how love is just … not what it was back in the day. It’s rarer that it was, for sure, so I just went … you know what. im alright. xd forget it.
You do you! <3 Once i stopped listening to all that advice, things turned out for the better 😀
It is actually super cool that you have two diplomas. It is not just okay to have that but it is great, while most people find it hard to get even one. So you are doing great.
Absolutely!
I only have that one right now but however, id very much love to have one to be able to be a vet. With how invested I am with my weeins, I think id like it 🙈