Emotional VS Logical Side
Good morning!
This is something that i’ve started to notice more as i’ve grew older, after therapy; i’m positive this hadn’t been a thing beforehand. Sometimes.. I actually wonder if something’s actually wrong with me, or if that’s quite normal and « everyone think like this » 😂 (or a good percentage of it, anyway..)
I feel a very distinct difference between my « emotional » part of my brain, VS my more « logical » side – in situation of panic/anger/sadness specifically … think of it like the angel/demon form in cartoon: although not really, the « logical » definately being the angel here, I don’t think of emotions being inheritely good or bad. Ithink it can be both- the difference between them being the circumstance(s) around it and how we deal with it. (Exemple; being mean at someone VS manifesting for some social issue to change. Bad VS good anger).
This has been particularly useful in times of panic or depression, because as we know, we usually tend to go into overthinking mode. While I’d have one voice in my head going all out with the emotion and blabbing in the « negativity » of it and « everyone hates me/I’m an horrible person » narrative, it’s followed by another voice who debunk all of what the other had just said and rationalize it.
In times where i’m overwhelmed by how busy it is at work and tend to slide into panic, the second voice pushes me to concentrate and keep going instead. That the rush will end soon, and everything will be okay – just do what you can, you only have a set of arms so you can’t do all the things at once.. and just keep breathing.
In times of anger, this logical side help me stay more « passive-agressive » at best and change how I would act on it. While I might feel like smashing things or leave work angrily, the voice tells me how I can’t do that, for X reasons. Allowing me to feel and give a certain importance to the emotion, while trying to process it onto a much healtier/gentlier way than what I would be « originally » leaning forward to.
It also helps me while interacting with others; when i’m training a new coworker or when a customer/coworker pisses me off for whatever the reason might be, my logical voice reminds me to be « dou-doux » — which in this case means to stay gentle and as less harsh as possible. I’m a pretty straight-forward type of person, which has been said to be quite harsh at times.. while all I’ve wanted was to help the person by stating what had been wrong and can be done better, I won’t sugarcoat it. You get the raw truth/opinion; which some people don’t quite like that.
I have a distinct memory of my therapist saying something about that.. and ofcourse the need to « debunk » the anxiety/depression monologue as a way to deal with it on a regular basis. So that’s probably how it happened, growing with me to be some kind of automatic coping mechanism in my brain now.