Mental health talk // My dachshunds saved my life đ¶

Good morning,
Something a bit un-usual for me today, Iâve just wanted to share something a little more personal and talk more about it â just because I can. Donât worry though, Iâm in a way better state of mind that iâve ever been since then; But itâs just to show how anything can be a reason good enough if itâs allowing you to keep going forward.
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I got baby Kafei from a breeder in May 2014, I remember it distinctly because I was in my internship in my second year of my Accounting Diploma. I actually really loved the workplace who had took me, with the help of my teacher, but sadly they couldnât keep me as they had just hired someone.

Mom was still incredibly sick, having multiple problems happening with her dialysis and basically her body refusing to cooperate â and so I decited to take the tests to see if I wouldâve been a match to give her one of my own kidneys. I was deadset on the idea that I was the one who was gonna save her live, giving her that part of me (and my DNA) to allow her more years with us as a family âŠ
It crushed me that one day I was in College before the internship started where I got a call of the lady telling me her blood had a reaction to mine -her own DAUGHTER!- so I wasnât a match. This was a turn back to square one of not only taking care of her (because it was my job and not dadâs for whatever reason), but also remaining unable to do anything to save her or to be sure that iâll have her with me for more years to come .. just watching her health going downhill without any means to stop it, hearing people mostly point out she âcouldâve been so sick as she was always smilingâ and âatleast itâs not cancerâ. The fact remained the same, I was losing my mother gradually.
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That year sure was hard; but I managed to float in it somehow, aced all my courses and gotten my diploma. In June of 2014 I had my first job ever, in my accounting field, for a construction company⊠and thatâs when things started to really go south.
Like most things afterward, I was just shoved there to learn whatever on my own without nobody to help me; which was BAD as I had no idea what in hell was happening. Keep in mind I had JUST gotten out of college; so I had the theoric part, but not âreal lifeâ background to it. 95% of my time was alone in a big office area where I could hear banging in the wall from the neighborâs â because they let me in, I pushed WAY further of my limit, to the point where just crossing the doorâs thresold would have me in tears in the mornings. Then Iâd calm down and tell myself it wasnât so bad and keep pushing, which led me to cry multiple times a day.
December 2019 was when I snapped and realized I couldnât do that anymore; I couldnât give my boss the 2weeks notice that is âpreferedâ.. and this is where my first panic attack took place â he denied having said I could go and told be I was forced to continue because A) I didnât gave him to weeks, and B) they didnât had the paperwork for my record of employement yet. I hung up the phone unable to speak and immidiately started bawling. Just un-stoppable crying and hyperventilating so much that I was dizzy; luckily I had someone with me there that day, as I was showing her what I did (though I truly didnât knew what I was even doing xd) and first thing I said was «Thatâs a panic atttack, right?» to which she said yes. Later, my therapist asked me how I could tell thatâs what it was â because usually people think theyâre dying or having a heart attack .. and I donât know, I just KNEW it was.
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It took me 9 months of weekly therapy (1/2 sessions per week â paid by my dadâs workplace at that point) before I could have a job again. It was so bad that I was absolutely PANICKED at night, thinking my boss was gonna show up at my house to grab me and force me to go work â which of course never happened, but still. Baby Kafei was around 9months of age at this point.. and I grabbed onto him like a life jacket. I had been diagnosed with intermediaire/almost crossing into severe Anxiety AND Depression.
I couldnât leave the house without my dog, or feeling really badly when I did â in fear that something would happen to him once Iâd leave him, and I was walking around the house with him in my arms at all time. Meanwhile, momâs health was still having complications; to which I wouldâve wanted to be stronger for her, and not show her how bad thing was? I also kept talking to my therapist how bad I was both as a child and as Kafeiâs mother because I wasnât doing X, Y & Z. Not talking about how guilty I felt about sleeping and gaming all day, not able to go or even find a workplace (took me several months aswell, in which my dad was pushing me to find one ASAP â that didnât helped my feeling of being a disgrace to my family and extremely lazy.)
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2015 came, In April mom received a Kidney and all her health complications evaporated. They never seen that before- usually people receiving an organ from a dead body still need dialysis for a while before it kicks in; she didnât. Doctors were saying how it was just like they removed her own and placed it back; ZERO problems and working full force like it was her own all along. I also had gotten Sheik from the same breeder as her brother (so they have the same parents, but different littler) and started being on anti-depression meds.

That year also meant we had to euthanized both momâs 10years old poodle (he had been bitten by a berneese mountain dog in the neck, which leaved him in pain and aggressive), aswell as my 10+ years old kitty (she had a chunk of ear off, constant blood scab that Kafei would remove and sheâd bleed everywhere â which was bad for motherâs health and make her new kidney in danger).
As I was obsessing over Kafei so much, Sheikâs arrival troubled me a bit as it kind of âleveledâ things up and I wasnât as much about him anymore.. which gave me a real scared that I didnât loved him anymore; when really⊠it went back to normal instead of being obsessive and taking him as a life jacket.
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I canât say that I remember all the details after that point. I continued with my therapist until I had ran out of the 12 (originally 8) sessions that my dadâs workplace was paying for, and I  was still un-employed, so I couldnât pay for them myself (was like, $180 a session of 30mins); got several wierder anxiety-induced physical problems, and it was still spiraling downward until we found an anti-depression pill that worked well on me, aswell as fixing my contraception pill  â my body need both to function; when my contraception pill go near the sugar-filled ones I see my mental health going downhill a little: more emotional, getting panics out of nowhere, migraines, etc.
My godmother came to my rescue and spent some time with me as she got alarmed by knowing what I was going through. There was only ONE TIME where I got my mother really scared.. I was working at the bakery with a boss that kept yelling at us and stuff because she was dealing with her motherâs cancer (never shouldâve been upgraded to manager from supervisor, but she didnât had a choice as the manager left in sick leave â that didnât made her behavior right, but anyway). My dad was gone for the week so we were only her and I; I woke up that morning to go to work ⊠and I just broke. Told my mother I didnât wanted to go, she said I should because money- so I went to get dressed and started uncontrollably crying. It was the first time my mother had seen it that bad, as usually my panic remain un-seenable as i can only feel it. Sure, you can see it in my eyes but no excessive crying; and if I did, it was in the middle of the night.
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There was many times where i thought about leaving this world, or thinking why I survived my three near-death experience thus far (at birth, suffocate on vomit and drown). I couldnât save my mom, friends were leaving, nobody loved me in a âboyfriendâ way, all the workplaces I got had shitty bosses who made me feel even worst but like I was stuck there because I do needed the money..
What kept me here? My dachshunds. In my sick brain, my mother had my father, my bestfriend had her half-sister at the time.. my ill brain was making me feel and think I couldâve been easily replaced. but to them? I was their mom; and although I had faith that my own mother wouldâve had took great care of them (though it wouldâve been too costy for her), she wasnât me !! They also pushed me to never harm my body either, because I couldnât bare to imagine them finding my body and not understanding. Our three souls belong together and should stay together.
for some people, «Itâs just a dog»; for people like me, they are family. They can save lives. Even being asleep in a complete different room than the one I was in, if I started silently crying or panicking, one of the two would come running to comfort me.
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No reason is too silly to live another day. And another, and another .. whatever it might be: your dogs, like me, music, an artist in particular.. anything works! And please get help. I look back onto thoses years and I canât believe I felt so low, compared to how great I am now â itâs a long journey for sure, but itâs not an impossible one.
I’m glad you got your dogs <3
I wish I had fur babies to make me feel better sometimes
They definately does the best work xx hope youâd get to have one someday!
I have no idea how to respond, but im very happy you found a purpose and got through everything!
Hooray for good doggos
Thank you Lauren xx
I’m so sorry you had to endure all that but I’m also glad you’re in a much better space now đ Your smol fur babies are adorable btw! I totally agree about them being family – I have a dachshund back home too and it’s honestly so depressing that I get to be with him for a few weeks every 6 months or so đ„ș
Thank you so much â€ïž
They truly are the best breed, eh? Hopefully itâs just for a short time and itâd end soon- so you can be with him xx
You are a strong one, I could never leave mine behind so long