Heyoo!
I’m almost done my second decade already, but I swear my brain feels stuck at 23 MAXIMUM- it absolutely didn’t follow my body, which in some times I actually forget how old I’m getting until I actually think about it 😆
As i’m growing older, here’s some of the little problems, or “phases” that I’ve had been struggling with.. hoping they’d get easier as I hit the next decade of my life!
The “I didn’t planned for this”
You see, I got mental health problems & hit my rock bottom at a pretty young age.. so I actually didn’t planned to come this far 😐 Not to be dark or anything, but I never thought to plan for a future.. heck, I still don’t, it’s hard for me to plan for stuff for more than a few months’ time.
So for many reasons, I feel like I failed myself here and didn’t worked as hard as I should’ve when I had the chance at school. Yes I was a good students, but if I would’ve had kept my math in check aswell as gone further- taken more science class.. I would’ve been able to go further. It is very much possible to get upgraded at my age, but the path is far more tedious than if I’d had a better headstart..
Everyone my age is getting married / pregnant
Evidently, i’m at an age where mostly everyone I went to school with is having babies and weddings.. and i’m over here with my animals and nothing else 😆 Mind you I couldn’t even get pregnant even if I wanted to, as i’m lacking a piece if you get my draft..
What hit me the hardest is how both ladies that I had spent my school years with are with kids; my bestfriend of forever has a 1year old toddler now, and the other friend I spent the 4yrs of high school with is pregnant currently.. Definately a big slap onto the “welp we’re getting old”
How do we make friends, again?
Listen, I was the odd girl out at school.. so I wasn’t making much friends then either (back to my first point- I failed myself here), but BOY if I thought it was hard then.. it’s even harder now 🥲 Doesn’t help much that I basically just get to work & home, with the frequent trips to the pet store & vet.
On the same launch, dating at my age isn’t easy either – try finding a good partner when you don’t have much friends to begin with!
Related; Dating in your late 20s
Did you also went through these? How’d you succeed them?
Is everything better on the other side of our 20s?
I turned 30 this past March and it’s still the same over here lol. Seeing my old high school and college friends getting married, having kids, moving into new houses and apartment, it’s a lot. Meanwhile I’m back in school studying for my masters degree, living with my family never had a boyfriend 😭 Don’t worry about not making it in your 20s. Your 20s are there for you to do whatever you want. It’s your 30s that make you go “what the hell am I doing with my life” 😱😱😱🤣🤣🤣
Ahahaha ohno 😂
Im also with my parents if that makes you feel better! Here the price of things are astronomical, no way you can have that alone.. and with my three I dont wanna live with randoms because you never know what they might do to them yknow 💀
Haha yeah that makes me feel loads better!! Yeah here in NJ prices are skyrocketing high so you’re better off being with family for as long as you can.
We’ve saving in the long run!! Wait for the economy to crash to buy x3
I think everything will happen when you least expect it Kristina! Also I am forever 16 in my head, even if my body doesn’t believe it all the time LOL
Ahaha good to know that’s not just a me thing 😂
I know what you mean. I feel like everyone is growing up and moving on without me, while I’m stuck trying to play catch up on being an adult. My anxiety and depression prevented me from graduating high school and while I’m trying to get my GED, college is pretty much out of the picture permanently. I don’t know what I want to do with my life either. I used to want to be an author but writer’s block and inability to handle criticism has killed that dream. Adulthood just isn’t turning out at all like I’d thought it would.
Here’s hoping things can turn around for all of us and we can finally live the life we’re working towards!
Aw im sorry to hear that!
Mental illnesses definately change the whole thing for us, especially if not found in time… I was 19 when I started medicating & therapy, but I still felt like I lost a good chunck of my early 20s… and then covid hit 💀
Wishing you the best my dear ❤️
Everything about this is really relatable 😭 I turned the big 30 this October and I feel the whole “everyone’s at that stage in life and I am not”. Everyone’s having babies and in their bought houses and getting married and pregnant (again for some !) and I’m like… not me here ahah. And the making friends thing is tough, as well. I feel like it’s tough to find places, as well, aside from work, to really forge connections? How do you do that? 😭
Anyway, I don’t really have anything that can help and I’m sorry for that, but I’m sending you all my love, wishing you all the best and am always happy to chat!! ❤️ ❤️
Aww thank you Marie 🥰
Yep, hopefully the third decade is where we start learning more about us and what we want 😅 then again price are insane at the moment.. it SHOULD crash eventually