Blogging with anxiety; Feeling like we’re not enough
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So, I thought of a new installment for this serie of posts. In case you missed the others, here’s the recaps; Stats / Content Wise / Posts Paranoïa
We all know that comparing ourselves to others is never the solution.. but we also know how hard this can be. Just like in real life, it sometimes feels like everyone else in the blogosphere know what they’re doing, and you’re the only one just struggling to keep afloat.. without really knowing what you are doing.
This most likely isn’t the case and everyone is all doing the same thing at trying their best, but of course anxiety doesn’t want you to know that xd I mean.. sure, we *know* the logic part that surely it can’t only be us – while at the same time, we can’t really wrap our minds around that.
Stats can play a huge part into feeling like we’re not enough or a “good blogger”, specially if you see that your posts hasn’t done well this pasts couples weeks; as of which happened to me just yesterday .. This is why I usually don’t look into the views/likes/comments on the posts themselves because I know it’ll lead me spiralling. But alas I was curious and it seemed that I didn’t had enough reactions theses past days soo .. thus I commit THE error of checking x)
The feeling gets even worst when it’s a post you were so proud of.. for in the end have barely any reactions to it 😓 But you know what? the opposite is also true .. you can formulate a post, thinking it’s not as good as the others, to have yourself wrapped in a sea of reactions for this ONE post you weren’t sure about!
Having all our own personalities and being all unique as individuals, our blogs will also reflects the same. We’ll write differently, explains things differently, and everything else in between ! We can get caught up in being unsure of ourselves (and thus, our blogs) that sometimes we wish that we could do some things differents, and even maybe be more like them.. when in reality, I think we all have thoses moments.
Another thing that I know I put WAY too much importance on, is my scheduled posts. Like this one here was supposed to go much earlier, but because i’m sick for almost a week now, I wasn’t feeling to write something nor had the ideas for it .. and of course we prompt others to take hiatuses or breaks because their health is 100% more… it’s actually hard for ourselves to follow the same path.
Even if my friends prompted me the same mantra that I would’ve serve anyone else, that health was more important and nothing majorly devastating was gonna happen if I did take a break today, I nonetheless felt like I just HAD TO post something. Because i’m self-hosted now, I feel even more inadequate to not post on my blog – which could possibly lead to me not posting anymore (not really, but my brain does think that) because i’m now paying for it! And it’s a big trigger for me to not use something that i’m paying for.. well, technically I paid it all in one go so i’m good until I need to pay for few yearly things but still.
Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough as a blogger?
What did you do in thoses moments to feel better?
god, i relate so much to this post. last week my stats weren’t so good and i obsessively check my stats which i should probably change, seeing they were not good i started feel ‘insufficient’ and with the stress of an upcoming test and clinical posting i almost had another breakdown.
i don’t struggle with scheduled posts, for me its getting them done on time even though, i was taking a break after a really stressful week, i still feel like trash. blogging with anxiety is hard.
Yep, I definately relate with that!
Some weeks, i’m pretty good at having them scheduled atleast a day or two before… while other times I stuggle because I may not feel like it, like it was the case for this one, or even maybe because I don’t have the ideas to write anything and THAT leads me to panic.
Of course I am aware that almost everyone has more followers than me and therefore probably more views as well. But I have just come to the conclusion that it is okay. I don’t think I use as much time on my blog and scheduling posts as other bloggers. If I do three posts in a month I am pretty satisfied. Everyone has different expectations.
I really get however that feeling when you are really proud of a post and it doesn’t get the reaction you had hoped for. It sucks but I try not to let it get to me. Luckily blogging isn’t my professional profession. 😉
I hope you will get well soon <3
That’s true, though followers and views doesn’t necessarely correlate 😅 either there’s lot of “spammy” follows, or some more active than others and etc.
yeah, it’s really hard to completely play it neutral shaahah – atleast for me XD I still has problems with that one.
Thank you! yeah.. me too, getting real tired of caughing so much ahah!
I feel this ALL. THE. TIME. When these feelings get really bad, I’ll usually take some time away to just read or be present in real-life. Or, I visit other blogs and comment, try to make new blogger friends, and just expose my blog a little more (because let’s face it, it is not even remotely “big”).
I usually try to keep it quiet, yeah .. just, time to distract your mind, hop onto something else for the day XD
Visiting others is always a great idea! I pretty frequently just hop onto blogs I find by thoses I follow shared on twitter (if I see an interesting post) and just immediately read/share/follow them out of the blue.
I totally get what you mean. I’m launching a new series in a couple of weeks and have posts planned until at least end of Jan 2021 (one a week) but it’s still nerve wracking wondering if all the extra effort I’ll be going to to do it will be interesting to other people. I hope you feel better soon and TRY not to get too caught up in what other people might think 🙂
Yes! That’s always the question, eh 😅 it’d be so sad if that one post for a year didn’t did as good as planned.. it is a LOT of work, regardless on what it is.
Thank you! One of the lovely women I work with brought me some of her go-to’s that helps her family so let’s see if it can help! (The usual ginger, cinnamon & honey, but she also gave me some type of seeds ? I absolutely forgot what it is xd)
I relate to this post so much; every day I feel like I am not good enough or not doing enough or being creative enough. I’m constantly measuring my self worth by the amount of interaction my blog shares on twitter get (not good) and feeling like shit because everyone else is so supported and I am just in a corner alone
Oh no, Kal.. you’re one of the bloggers so very high on my list that I look up to – among Marie & Lauren for sure, so that’s sad to hear that you’re feeling this way. ❤️ Sending you love
This this THIS is the most relatable post ever. I have such massive anxiety when it comes to book blogging sometimes, it’s so… silly really because it’s all a hobby, yet sometimes it makes me so anxious and stress me out a whole lot. I feel like I’m not good enough, not doing good enough, not being social enough, I tend to look at stats a little too much and it gets overwhelming and maddening when I see something I’ve worked so hard on doesn’t work as well as I thought it would and so on. I guess my anxious mind is wired to worry a whole damn lot too, so yeah that doesn’t help ahah.
What really helps me when I feel too anxious is to turn back to blogging friends to chat, to my sister who screams at me to stop obsessing, I try and take a little break. I wish I had fantastic advice to share, but really I don’t. It’s a day by day thing, trying our best. you’re doing wonderful, keep on enjoying blogging and what you do, Kristina, you’re wonderful. <3
Aww thank you so so much ❤️❤️
You are one of thoses bloggers that I really look up to; your blog seems just so big and always nice.. so in a way it’s nice to see that you too can have thoses; while in the same time, im really saddened that you’re in the same boat as me.
Oh, I can definitely relate to this feeling. I often end up comparing myself with my channel and need to remind myself to snap out of it. And with blogging I often feel like I don’t make the time to blog hop and visit other blogs enough, and then feel like a rubbish blogger because of that. I know we all have different amounts of time and such, and we can only do our best, but sometimes it can be difficult :/
It’s truly difficult to juggle.. i know every time I put barely any effort with returning and bloghopping, wether it’s because im sick/tired or just don’t feel like it, I feel bad too..
if you only have so much time that you need to choose between your blog’s quality posts or bloghopping… i’d go with your blog. If you can only comment on one blog a day, that’s fine too! I know i’m one to feel bad aswell if I only went to, say, only five blogs instead of 20..